The question is whether or not the married man will fix this intimacy issue with this wife.
It’s hard to tell, some couples can pop out of a triangle and do the work of recommitment, others can’t and end up doing it apart, alone, or with someone else.
Instead defensive stuff happens like distancing from each other or finding another lover to make up for what is not happening in the marriage.
The problem is you can’t get a piece of what you need from one person and another piece from someone else and expect to have a stable and satisfying love-life. What you get instead is fragmentation, conflict, and limited intimacy.
Fundamentally, they are unstable, like three legs on a table.
Something always goes wrong, or at least it should, because triangles usually end up hurting people more than anything else.
If you love a married woman and you’re in a love relationship with her, read this post.
The reality is he’s looking for love like the rest of us and afraid of what he’ll find.But for the ‘other man’ this is a painful transition from a illusory relationship with a married woman in a triangle with a married man to a period of being alone again where some serious work can be done on his love-life (if he’s up for it).The work needed is usually in the area of developing a better tolerance for love and intimacy by clearing out whatever fears and blocks the guy has in the way.By the way, when people say they are afraid of intimacy think ‘exposure’ to what they themselves have difficulty accepting in themselves.Most people I’ve met who are afraid of intimacy, lose the fear when they accept and feel better about themselves.