Gossip magazines and talk shows were breathless with excitement about the pairing, and you couldn’t go anywhere without seeing some magazine or TV show dubbing Moore as a cougar.(For those of you who don’t know, a “cougar” is slang for a woman who is over 40 and dates or sleeps with younger men. Moreover, women aren’t animals and should never be referred to as such in a wholesale manner without their consent.
For those women who like to be called cougars, by all means, choose what you want to be called. Calling a woman a cougar is neither progressive nor supportive. I also think it’s important to mention that “cougar” carries a connotation of predatory behavior.
Here's to you, Hollywood, for trying something old and something new.
But by next year at this time, the cougar will probably be extinct.
After dating younger men for four decades, what advice does she have for fellow cougars? Pie, 58, has been dating 24-year-old Oleg for four months. Anyone who has an issue with me going out with younger men — love is love, baby. I’m just having fun.”Bella’s friend, Lois, says their relationship is doomed to fail.
I remember my first real exposure to seeing a woman referred to as a “cougar.” It happened when Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher went public with their relationship. We don’t commonly refer to a man over 40 who sleeps with younger women as a “tiger,” “lion,” or any equivalent animal reference. When an unnecessary disparity exists in language that’s sexist, that’s when misogyny creeps in and spreads like a virus, compounding the damage already done.
The plot doesn't even mention the age difference, the studio wouldn't talk about it in an interview and Bullock even gets naked for the first time on the big screen, as if to say, "Look at me, I've still got sex appeal." Hollywood used to put women over the age of 40 in the retirement home, while old dudes like Sean Connery kept seducing ever-younger babes like Catherine Zeta-Jones.
Vardalos says she didn't even realize her costar's age difference until the night before she started shooting. "We recently baptized our daughter, and our priest used holy water. This is why Greek women never age; we're dipped in olive oil at birth."Another reason why we're seeing more onscreen romances between older women and younger guys is probably more subtle.
There's a new wrinkle this time, though, and we're not talking about Sandra's face. "The simple truth is, I like the script very much," says Stephen Frears, director of But as plastic surgery and Botox have gone mainstream, women are able to look younger, making some of these romances seem marginally believable.
That started changing when HBO let not-so-young actresses steal the TV spotlight in shows like and major and cable networks followed by casting Sally Field, Glenn Close and Kyra Sedgwick in dramas, among others.