Maria even helped seed the idea in my mind."Any cute girls there? She and I have spo- radically kept in touch on Facebook and have even met up for drinks—just drinks— when we found ourselves in the same city.
" she asked when we spoke on the phone the night I arrived."There is one I sort of like talking with." "Are you going to hook up with her? " Maria didn't push me to give her a play-by-play, so I kept the dirty details to myself. And when I came home, I was full of gratitude for my wife. My experience, and Maria's own two months later, caused us to see each other and our relationship in a new, more adventurous light. Subscribe now for instant access to the digital edition to read more of the "My First Time..." essays.
You know, key parties, "The Ice Storm." It is difficult for me to think of it as something new or current, or as something my friends would do. Plenty of intelligent, successful, hip people are considering the not-quite-forsaking-all-others option on 'til-death-do-us-part.
And by now, most women are familiar with the statistic heard 'round the world, publicized in an article in "The New York Times" in January. Marriage isn't entirely working, at least for a subset of the population. To look into that very question, I created a Personals profile on Nerve.com, a site that encourages candid dialog about sex through blogs, feature stories, fiction and photography.
How is my wife going to react, I wonder, when I tell her about this?(She's not that much of an anomaly, actually: Almost 20 percent of women in a Glamour survey said they'd consider some form of open relationship.) Maria had first proposed the arrangement to me during our initial, long-distance phase.And by proposed, I mean that she had a one-night stand with another guy, then guilelessly told me all about it over the phone.At this time in our history, for the first time ever, there are more women living that are single than are married. I became, for the purposes of this story, a woman looking for fun times with couples (man and woman)--yes, this is a check-box option there--and thus was permitted to peruse through other similar profiles.I found dozens upon dozens of couples, some married, some attached, some who preferred not to say, but most of whom claimed to be healthy, happy, stable and just looking for cool people to hang out with who didn't mind getting naked at the end of the night.