Self-disclosure is simply telling people what you think, how you feel, and letting them see what matters to you.
Reducing the threat of judgment from others–and yourself One of the reasons people may not disclose more about themselves is for fear of being judged.
The DSM-5 defines social anxiety as the “persistent fear of one or more situations in which the person is exposed to possible scrutiny by others and fears that he or she may do something or act in a way that will be humiliating or embarrassing.” Those who are shy, if not socially anxious, tend to experience social situations in a more reserved, tense and uncomfortable manner, especially when meeting new people.
It may take longer to open up and share, which can affect one’s ability to form close relationships.
And anxiety left untreated often leads to developing comorbid disorders, such as depression.
People may assume it’s normal to feel the type of anxiety they experience, or believe the anxiety is something that can’t be treated.
Rife with opportunities for awkward conversations and infinite unknown factors — – dating often is seen as overwhelmingly scary and decidedly unappealing.
This type of anxiety and shyness leads to avoidance of meeting new people, as well as a sense of isolation and hopelessness about the prospect of finding a suitable partner.
In this way, dating only adds fuel to the anxiety fire.The threat of negative evaluation from others–such as being negatively perceived by your date–is the root of social anxiety, and is exacerbated in a dating setting.Most of the time, anxious daters highly overestimate how harshly their partner is judging them.Another study in 2009, focusing on acceptance and mindfulness-based group therapy, also showed similar gains for people with social anxiety.In my work, and in my life in general, I so frequently saw amazing people who were deserving of love and companionship, but who were paralyzed by fear, struggling with loneliness and hopelessness rooted in anxiety.