It’s three weeks into dating and his profile’s up, you let it go. Wouldn’t it make more sense to call him, text him, and see him so he doesn’t lose interest in you? All you do when you “nudge” a man to take action is let him know that he’s in control, you’re desperate and needy, and that you don’t trust that he knows what’s good for him. And if he’s receiving texts that say, “Where are you?!The truth is, if you’re the right woman for him, you don’t NEED to nudge him. ” or late night calls that plead, “Where is this going?She has hosted over twelve hundred speed dating/mixer events, coached hundreds of men and women into dating gurus, and she has proudly played matchmaker for countless love-seeking singles.In 2009, Laura was the co-host of Rogers Television show “Dating 201”.I’ve been a dating coach and matchmaker for more than a decade – here’s my perspective on sex and relationships in the early in the stages of dating. One thing I’ve learned through my own personal experiences and my career as a matchmaker is that men willwait for sex, if you impose a no-sex right away policy.
Which is why, when Maureen and Cassie breathlessly asked me to tell them what to do next, the answer couldn’t be more simple: NOTHING!!!
And some men are turned off by a woman who has sex right away – they wonder to themselves: if she’s giving it to me this quickly, she must get around.
As much as we ladies have become empowered and liberated and done so much to dispel silly stereotypes like “she’s easy if she has sex on the first date”, the point is, it’s not about whether he thinks you’re a easy or not.
So when it’s been 10 hours and you haven’t gotten a reply to his text, you let it go.
When it’s Thursday night and he hasn’t called to see you on Saturday, you let it go. You never have more leverage over a man than when he’s CHOSEN you of his own accord, when he’s EMOTIONALLY INVESTED in you because he FEELS so happy every time he’s around you.