Much the way it is patently unfair for a man to judge a woman because she doesn't accurately reflect the absurd, airbrushed and Photoshopped women adorning men's magazines, it is unfair for women to write a man's superficial shortcomings off because he's not Mr. Whenever I read or talk to a woman about a recent loser or string of losers, I can't help but think about that old breakup canard, "It's not you, it's me." Maybe it's not him, it's you. Which brings me to a bigger point: Really, we're all losers. Love, real love, is forgiving someone for being human.And being human is being a loser, an embarrassing, spectacular mess of contradictions, insecurities, and pimples. Assuming that you are so put together that you're above criticism is self-deception, pure and simple. They're separating and trying to decide how to divide everything. Worst still is that he's married and is sharing a house with his wife. If you’re dating a ‘loser’, you may recognize in your partner some of these characteristics described by Consulting Clinical Psychologist Joseph M. This article continues with a note on dangerous versions of the ‘loser’ and offers guidelines for detachment.Also see the new “Relationship Quiz: True Love or True Loser?”, which may help you to identify and highlight experiences of concern within your relationship.This article was published to the Internet several years ago and was originally written to help identify “Losers” in relationships.
Do not sleep with a man until you've gone back to his house and checked everything out to make sure he's living alone—there’s no ex-wife, current wife, children or anybody else in the background.2.
A "loser" seems to be defined as a person with a demonstrable character blemish. Hey, we live like frat boys, but maybe we don't want to live in a Bed, Bath & Beyond showroom.
This blemish usually contradicts whatever your favorite lady mag tells you is admirable in a man, like granite counter tops, emotional over-availability, therapist-like listening skills, a generous bankroll, and killer style. OK, we don't call, but maybe you call, text, instant message, and Facebook too much?
The e-mail feedback I have received on the article has been tremendous.
It’s clear the article is a way of identifying not only “losers” but controlling, abusive, and manipulating individuals.