Instead, she entered and exited relationships frequently, often sleeping with the men she was dating."Even though I knew it was wrong, I continued to have sex outside of marriage," Lindsey told The Christian Post. Because when you're single you don't want to be lonely.""I was the girl that broke up with one boyfriend and had another one on speed-dial—that afternoon I'd already be going out with somebody else.
I kept a boyfriend because I liked the attention," she continued.
For Lindsey, her behavior was not simply a result of her conforming to the sexual values of her non-Christian peers.
Sixty-one percent of self-identified Christian singles who answered a recent Christian Mingle survey said they are willing to have casual sex without being in love, while only 11 percent said they are waiting to have sex until they are married.There's not a lot of distinction in the way people date [or] in the attitude toward dating and marriage," Anderson told CP.While "sex may be the determining factor" for some Christians "we're even seeing that line blurred," said Anderson."And in every other respect, we're generally seeing the same kind of attitudes and practices," said Anderson, listing "dating ad nauseum, dating indefinitely, dating someone without any specific game plan, and dating recreationally without a view toward marriage," as examples of ways that the Church has adopted the patterns of the larger secular culture."For the Christian culture it's extremely frustrating, because they are trying to go after something lasting, but they're using the same formula to get something that's just not going to get them there," said Anderson.But while in college, Lindsey "gave her heart to Christ." There, for the first time, she became convicted that premarital sex is wrong.But despite this realization, after Lindsey moved to New York, she did not abide by this new sexual ethic.