"The lightbulb went off while the two were on vacation and Eric, on a whim, suggested hitting a strip club. "I was relaxed after a few days off, and it seemed exciting," she says."Just doing something, anything, new — I needed that." Once they had a few cocktails, Eric bought Janet a table dance."To us, sex is a physical act, but kissing is an intimate act," Eric explains. The experience was exhilarating, but not their scene."That's why it's always off the table." In other words: rules? Things didn't get started until after midnight — tough for a couple that goes to bed well before After a few failed nights at sex clubs, Janet and Eric were relieved to find Club Relate, a private swingers group owned by a husband-and-wife team, Tom and Lynda Gayle.
A few years ago, Janet's libido took a nosedive, something she blames on the Pill but could have been due to stress, age, or just growing complacent in her marriage. What's the point of being married and not enjoying sex together?But how does a committed couple make this lifestyle work? Janet and Eric have agreed to answer every question I ask on this August afternoon before they head out to a swingers gathering, and even okay my request to ride along with them to the party.I'm also welcome to interview them the day after, when their defenses will be lowest.Their living room looks like a Pottery Barn catalog, with throw pillows alternating precisely across the couch: beige, burgundy, beige, burgundy, beige.They keep their unorthodox sex life under wraps — and with good reason. If anyone they know professionally discovered what they do in the buff, there would be unfixable damage to their reputations, or worse. Sure, they follow everyday rules, but the concept of swinging is mind-boggling to most people in a serious relationship.