Often many partners don’t even know much about a person’s background, prior relationships, reasons for break-ups, moneys owed, children conceived long ago that have just become financial obligations, religious affiliations and beliefs, hidden sexual desires, or family skeletons, before they even decide whether a future is in order or would even work. It is sad to me to so often hear women talk to each other about strategies and orchestrations without talking directly to the guy they’re with.
By the time they have figured out that he is attractive, knows how to work a date correctly, isn’t married, and reasonably available, they are too far into the relationship to know how to back up and ask the questions that should have been part of the hours together after the first movie.
Share those feelings and thoughts with graciousness and a lack of urgency.
There was a time when relationships had rules that everyone understood and accepted.
Additionally, a secure and confident woman is more likely to enjoy the “undefined-ness” of the relationship because she is actually deciding for if he is indeed the man she would like to commit to.
Most often, the woman that is pushing is insecure within herself and is subconsciously looking for her partner to make her feel secure.
I grew up in a fancy men’s barber shop in Beverly Hills.
My dad was “barber to the stars.” I spent hours in a corner listening to them speak to each other.