Instead of owning what he didn’t do, he can deflect it through blaming you for being such a complaining nag. The last thing a “man child” wants is a confrontation, and he will do anything to stop one in its tracks.
When you try to bring something serious to his attention, see if you are the one backing out of the conversation by apologizing about something you did wrong.
The “nag” always gets the bad press, but when you look deeper, the nagging is usually the result of someone not taking full responsibility for himself and his actions.
However, just like parenting a teenager, each time you nag you enable his behaviors. When you stop the nagging and try to bring up deeper issues or your deeper needs, he makes a joke, changes the topic, looks at his phone, or turns the tables on you by telling you what you are doing wrong in the relationship.
You find yourself making excuses for him, rationalizing his poor choices, and working to see things from his perspective more than your own.
When people do not fully grow up, they farm out the hard work of adulthood to those closest to them.
What appears fun and sexy now could eventually become deadweight that you have to carry—along with your children, household duties, and finances.Do you find your original point never gets addressed and you wind up talking about what you did wrong that triggered his poor behavior? His interests and friendships carry a middle-school vibe.When he goes out or spends time with friends, he becomes an adolescent again.If you think you are in love with a man-child, take a step back and reflect on what motivates you to stay in such a lopsided union.You may fear letting go of control, not getting what you want, not being good enough to get what you want, or having to start a whole new relationship all over again. In my workbook, Building Self-Esteem 5 Steps: How to Feel "Good Enough," I outline specific steps to take to stop working on your man-child and start working on yourself. Sign that your academic field of study May be basing it's characterizations of what is and isn't a disorder based on societies expections.. I see what the author describes play out in various ways, depending on the culture.