Pleasing others becomes a choice founded in healthy self-worth rather than a means to validate yourself.
So how can you release the need to please and empower yourself to live authentically on your own terms?
Any attempt at standing your ground is met with shock and disappointment — and sometimes outright anger. Do you find yourself setting weak personal boundaries in order to win the love and approval of others?
Eventually the pain of diminishing myself became greater than the pain of disappointing others or encountering conflict. You ultimately crave this acceptance in order to feel validated and worthy.
You keep giving and giving to get your fix of approval and self-esteem. You lose site of who you are, what you want, or how to live your life on your own terms.
I would act against my own desires rather than provoke a conflict.
It took years for me to break free from people pleasing. As I grew in self-confidence, I no longer felt drawn to the need to please or inhibited by the fear of conflict. You become addicted to the approval and good feelings that come from making people happy and comfortable, as you tend to their needs over your own.