If you really want a relationship, even though it may empty out your pool a bit, it is better to focus your energy on people who offer likelier prospects for relationships instead of people who resist it.You don’t have to treat this guy like a last chance saloon.When you wait for non-commital guys, they continue to believe that you’re an option but they also feel no great impetus to change.They get to fanny around in indecision whilst you sideline your life and put a serious dent in your self-esteem waiting around for them.
The trouble with this deception is that by not being upfront he removed the right for you to decide what you 1) want to be involved in and 2) what you’re comfortable with.
Even when he says he’s giving his marriage another try, he’s uncommitted and can’t even work at his marriage without creeping around calling you!
You say you don’t have time to waste – whilst we can’t know all that lies in store for us when we become involved with someone, the idea of those early weeks and months of dating is to work out whether you should proceed ahead and whether your early perceptions hold up, or whether the reality is very different and you should halt, or abort the mission.
It’s draining and demeaning to wait for someone to choose.
If he’s going to leave and divorce her, he’ll leave and divorce her.