“I never used one and never will.”Woodward and Carlson feel that their disability doesn’t—or shouldn’t—limit them to dating only people who have disabilities also.
While society might view their physical difference as one big “Other” sign tied to their backs, these women merely view it as a key part of their identities, one that they’re proud of.“I don’t know that you can make online dating better,” says Woodward.
While there are apparently hundreds of registered users on these websites, none of the individuals who spoke to The Daily Beast said they would use them.“If you’re in a chair, that’s great.
If you’re not in a chair and you can reach the top shelf in my apartment, that’s even better,” says Woodward.“I think dating sites for people with disabilities is a terrible idea,” says Carlson, in the same vein.
Normally, she says, she chooses whatever is most comfortable for her.
For people who’ve never interacted with a wheelchair user, the first time can be intimidating (especially if you don’t know proper etiquette).
Exchanging a few flirtatious messages online, though, paves the way for a smooth first date.
Just like a messy divorce-in-progress or the fact that there are three kids under the age of 10 waiting at home, Carlson feels that disability is an important fact that potential partners should know from the beginning.
Unlike Woodward, who feels the Internet can bring out more negative in people than positive, Carlson thinks online dating is actually a better, less scary way for guys to approach her.